So theres definitely some chemistry between you everything else in your relationship seems to be going well, and you know theres potential there. The common belief, particularly in womens media, seems to be that you dont actually have good long-term relationships with the best sex of your life. This is where they realized I was there. After all, as per the New York Post, guys who rock your room dont make great grooms. Likewise, in the movie Trainwreck, the best-sex-of-your-life-guy is the creepy guy. He prodded her body clumsily, jerked around erratically while inside her and made strange chimp-like expressions as he came to climax. I took a glance at your posting history and really think that this guy is bad for you. It all depends if you can stomach knowing youre second-best. Even if I thought it was true, some things just shouldn't be said if you ask me. This Woman Was The Very First Person To Go Over The Niagra Falls Inside Of A Barrel, And She Lived To Tell The Tale. A lot of these come from open forum sites like. Even if they did have better sexual chemistry with you than your current partner, theyre still an ex, and probably for a good reason. The passion that your mate thought was so exciting may have been volatile and chaotic, she hypothesizes. reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2012): A oleh And this bride was horrified after her mum confessed to being in love with her fiance. But one surefire way to kill the spark? I believe sex is a big part of a relationship. Ive been together with my boyfriend for a year now and I would say the relationship is pretty serious. There are plenty of things you can do to help your boyfriend be a better lover for you and make sure that both of you are fulfilled by your sex life. 679215 Registered office: 1 London Bridge Street, London, SE1 9GF. She stayed quiet and said yes that it was true. Fri 19 Apr 2013 11.40 EDT. They all laughed at this which in turn made me feel sick to my stomach.Ufortuatley I had to urinate at this poit and got up to use the restroom. I'm a male and I'm completely honest with my SO. female I did not know that my husband would include himself in the ranking. Then I was humiliated. RING The Sun on 0207 782 4104 or WHATSAPP on 07423720250 or EMAILexclusive@the-sun.co.uk, Moment killer roams streets with shotgun in 8-minute rampage that killed 5, Popular Netflix show cancelled after just one series - leaving fans gutted, Im 92 but still rock minidresses - I've got a 2 secret to looking young, Baby among 6 festival-goers sliced to death by glass-encrusted kite strings, News Group Newspapers Limited in England No. Secondly, the act of sex is an extremely personal and subjective experience that to try and predict whether someone will be 'good at it' or not is close to impossible. I have read many post here how women state that an ex of theirs was the the best sex they have ever had but but the they were terrible boyfriends and the idea of marrying them was laughable. female The main reason he might not be that great in bed is because he lacks sexual experience in general. ", Another added: "She had absolutely no reason to say that, or bring up sex with her ex at all. Definitely not something I'd want my spouse to find on her feed. Ive given up on trying to make [my boyfriend] better, and Ive accepted that were just not sexually compatible, she says. Have you two discussed sex and what it is that he seemingly wants that he isn't getting? Dont expect him to magically know what you want by telepathy. And while the majority of redditors seem to agree that being told youre second best is ultimately unforgivable (throw out the whole girl, would rather die, etc. Add your answer to this question! I sometimes encourage him when hes doing something right, and that works.. A great way of doing this is having a sexy night in. Yes, absolutely you are right to be hurt. Especially doing it publicly, that's totally inexcusable. Tell him what you want. She wasnt shy or uptight, and we were comfortable with each other., Its not just the unsatisfied partner that suffers, either. Anyone with information on his whereabouts is asked to call Kings Mountain Police at (704) 734-0444 or Cleveland County Crime Stoppers at (704) 481-TIPS. You may provide consistency and fidelity. Taylor Dunham, explained that she had just worked an intense 16-hour shift and her only intention was to go straight to sleep when she got home. The lack of whatever is desired is a dealbreaker. by FABULOUS BINGO: GET A 5 FREE BONUS WITH NO DEPOSIT REQUIRED. That is still something positive, which you can take from this awkward incident. I saw this was upsetting her so I just stopped this converstion and told her that i just felt humiliated at the time and should not have to apologize for liking what she likes.I have not brought it up since, there is no point. Another redditor. I recently asked what about my body and he basically said that from a objective point of view her (his ex) body is better than mine but he's still more physically attracted to me and has enjoyed sex a lot more. Frankly, I would question why OP's husband would be discussing an ex at all, especially after 4 years of marriage. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. If yes, then I would read him the riot act, tell him it had better not happen again, and let it go. heartbroken, his ex, insecure, self esteem. Then the friend asked my wife if she had ever been tempted to cheat on me with (insert ex-boyfriends name), to which my wife replied saying hell no, that she would never risk our marraige like Your husband is being very passive-aggressive. After all, you don't need to be a sexpert to know it takes a little time to work out each other's likes and dislikes. Because of all the posts Ive been seeing I asked my Doctors say men are getting more vasectomies amid After Man Kills His Wife, Mother-in-Law, Five Children Press J to jump to the feed. It fucked me up bad, he wrote, in a post that ended up Here's what men would love more women to do in bed. He has an ex as his emergency contact. This is hurtful. 1. We were talking about our past sexual experiences and as we were sharing stories, he made a confession about how great his sex was with his previous girlfriend before me. Instead, it relies on the connection someone shares with the person they are experiencing it with. Not the sex itself. a bore in bed? Now, that doesnt mean hes necessarily the devil itself. She spends her free time hiking, exploring, eating vegan tapas and volunteering for a local dog shelter. We just had a laugh about it and she told me to never do it again, and that was it., The candor is paying off: The sex is getting better now. For other inquiries, Contact Us. reader, So_Very_Confused+, writes (31 October 2012): A I care about sex, but Im also fully aware of how crazy I was with my ex, she says, with an air of resignation. It doesnt work like that. Everything was perfect. Needless to say, people in the comments thought the girlfriend was being completely inappropriate. BUT this is one thing I would never say to her. female I have a daughter from a previous marriage that i care for. Sounds like you need to have a talk with this guy and tell him that this openness on a private aspect of your marriage is hurting you. Don't ask a question when you're not ready for the honest answer. Sorry if it sounds harsh but at least he's honest with you. At the end of the day, he's with you and you're perfect for him while his ex-cheated on him so I think you're still better off. She wasnt shy or uptight, and we were comfortable with each other., But earlier this year, Maria began seeing someone new, and although they get on well, the connection just isnt the same. reader, kirra07+, writes (31 October 2012): A Maybe talking about sex comes naturally to you, and thats great. His sexual past might have been good but they won't compare to how his experience will be with you. Again, we absolutely understand why you are feeling worried about your own experience with it later on because you feel that your lack of experience will mean that sex will not be as great. I am far from promiscous as my total number of guys I have slept with is 4 (I am 38 years old). The title alone is so malicious towards a current partners feelings. If youve landed on this page, your boyfriend probably isnt all that great in bed. I mean I appreciate the honesty, but why tell other people? Hak Cipta 2023 Bridestory. As everyone does at some point, shes feeling that she does have a tendency to struggle with insecurity. female I have been insecure with my body since I had my daughter. A It is inconsiderate even i it is the truth. WebI would be furious! My (23M) girlfriend (22F) just told me she had better sexual experiences with her ex which is why her libido towards me is so low. There are plenty of infinitely better ways to bring up any issues regarding sex than by constantly referring to a prior relationship. He doesnt yet realize that he has to adapt to the things you like because sex isnt one-size-fits-all. After all, none of us know what were doing when we first start having sex. reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): A and perhaps even unnecessary, at the very least he did not mean it in a malicious way. Guys can't read your mind and it gets tiring risking rejection. The next morning over breakfast she brought up what she said and apologized for it. Do I care how she got that way way, sexually speaking? The problem is that now I feel extremely insecure and worried that I won't be 'as good'. You are being WAY too nice. You are being WAY too nice." Dont assume that just because he climaxes, hes had a really enjoyable experience. ), In many scenarios, the blame tends to fall on an ex a mythical past figure who probably gave you the most intense orgasms of your life, but who was entirely unsuitable in almost every other way. 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